“Skinny Girls Can’t Comment”


So, I had a friend tell me that today.

She had made a post on social making fun of being overweight. One of those silly meme's that are meant to get a laugh. 


This is just exactly the way I used to do to myself for many years. I made a comment with a gif SMH. (you know the one, it's a classic now #madea)

And she said, “Skinny Girls Can’t Comment”.


If she was like me, I hated seeing people post about doing something I wanted to do.

I blocked them, I unfriended them, unfollowed them…all because seeing them made me feel bad. Have you ever felt that way? I think it’s human nature. We compare EVERYTHING.


Here is the thing, I have lost 60 pounds. I have lost 60 pounds because I want/need to lose 80.

I HAD to change my life for reasons you know absolutely nothing about.   

I am not skinny, by any means, nor do I want to be “skinny”. I just want to be healthy.

I also want to build a “space” that others can see that they can do it too. I want them to be inspired, not jealous

or envious. Or to joke it off like it’s not important because this is the most important thing I have ever done.

People say so often, that you shouldn’t care what other people think about what you’re doing.

And to a point I get it, but when other people are not at the “HAD” to make a change point in their lives yet,

I will give grace.


I am glad she made that comment today. Because it just proves my point. I am really strong! And I won’t stop.

And I am going to help so many more people who are ready to change their life. And I am going to help so many employers help their employees get healthy. And I am going to help someone qualify for needed surgery by lowering their BMI. I am going to help someone to return to work. I am going to help physicians give their patients a tool with a solution and not just another medication. I am going to give children their parents back. I am going to give wives their husband back and husbands their wives back and partners their partners back. And I am going to help someone start their own business that will give them a purpose when they have felt lost. And I will be told “no” and “I can’t” and “it will never happen” and a million different reasons why this dream/goal will never succeed. And yet……I will….